Why do people want to be Instafamous?
“What….Are you trying to be Instafamous or something!?” We hear it more than you think.
Today I have the privilege of sharing with you another amazing Mommy Blogger; Mal Botts. Hailing from Hawaii and full of creativity and spunk this girl writes posts that pack a punch. I first came across Mal on Instagram so I think this post is entirely fitting. If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like to have a large following, or why people do it, I think this post will help you understand “Insta Fame” just a little bit better.
*This post originally appeared on Mal’s website Alhoabottsandtots.com and se has graciously allowed me to guest post it here.
A PERSON WHO’S FAMOUS ON THE POPULAR APP INSTAGRAM BECAUSE THEY HAVE THOUSANDS OF FOLLOWERS. PERSON IS USUALLY A PRETTY GIRL WHO POSTS A THOUSAND PICTURES OF HER FACE OR WHATEVER FOOD SHE’S EATING. MAY INCLUDE PICTURES OF OTHER PEOPLE’S FOOD.”
– URBAN DICTIONARY
“What does being Instafamous look like to you?
It might be a 20 something posting her derriere on a beautiful beach?
What about someone who is middle aged with a bit of cash and lots of documentation of driving fast cars or chillin on yachts with pretty people?
Maybe a network marketer plugging skincare and gut health supplements?
Or how about a mom blogger who thinks she has perfected the art of the flat-lay and worships Pinterest?
These seem to be the most general stereotypes that people think of when they hear instafamous… and as you can see, I’ve posted it all.
To be completely honest, if you are someone who has any semblance of a social media following that is past a few hundred followers, you have probably heard one of these:
“What are you trying to be? Instafamous or something…”
“Oh, she’s instafamous now…”
“She’s just trying to be instafamous…”
“How’s that instafame going for you…”
And there are a million more ways to say what these people are not so subtly trying to say.
But the reality is, in most cases, it’s meant to be an insult, and it doesn’t feel awesome.
Don’t get me wrong, there are a ton of people who say something along those lines and they honestly mean it as a compliment, or an innocent joke.
A playful poke not said with malice or distaste.
These are not the people I am referring to. (They are also the people who know that they are not the people I am referring to.)
I am discussing the people who seem to genuinely have an issue with the amount of followers another person has on their Instagram account.
Please don’t ask me why it matters to them, because I could not tell you.
But since I have been asked if I am trying to be “Instafamous” in a few not so nice messages, I figured I would give answering that question a shot.
And hopefully while I’m answering it, I might impart a little insight regarding this “fame” at the same time.
First of all, I am not Instafamous.
In fact, I am quite far from it.
At the most, I might consider myself “Insta-occassionally-recognized-among-similar-circles”.
I mean, there are people out there who literally have millions of followers.
Just let that sink in for a sec…
Now I’m over here with my teeny tiny blog waving at them from the crowd, just like everybody else.
Second, this brings me to why many people may have a larger amount of followers than some, while still MUCH less than others.
With the way the world works today, having a following on instagram actually opens up a lot of interesting doors for people in a business sense.
Doors that happen to be pretty hard to open otherwise.
Some use Instagram to further their small business, some their modeling career.
Others use it to network with people in their professional circle and help expand their reach in their job market.
And for me specifically, having more followers helps me to get a greater audience for the thing that I really love doing. And that thing is writing my blog.
I started my blog just a little over a year ago and my reasoning for it, I can assure you, was not for fame of any kind.
Not that I (or anyone else for that matter) owe anyone an explanation, but I started blogging because I truly love to write. I love to write about… well just about anything really.
And for the first time in my life, I was able to write literally whatever I wanted and share it with other people.
To me, that in and of itself is one of the coolest things about our world today.
Think about it.
In the past you would have had to be a published author in order to reach so many people with your words. (And there was a time when women really couldn’t even DO that!!)
I know, ridiculous!
But now, anyone can write, about any topic under the sun, and put it out there for the world to see.
Now believe me, I understand that not all of my posts are pure gold. Haha, in fact most of them are probably more coal-like than anything.
Yet, I have gotten messages from people who have told me that they really enjoy reading what I’ve written, or that my words helped them through something because they could relate to exactly how I felt.
Some people have told me that simply reading something I’ve written has helped them to not feel so alone in this world, and then there are those that have just been stoked to try out a recipe I’ve shared.
Frankly, having just one person, say any one of those things makes writing, and expanding my social network, completely worth it.
Third and finally, if I want to share photos of my house, clothes, kids, car, face or even my derriere and other people choose to follow me and like those pictures, that is my choice and mine alone.
If I want to work on expanding my following to the hundreds or the thousands it is not up for public discussion.
You don’t have to like it, but you do have to respect it.
The same way that I respect your choice to use your Instagram account as you see fit.
So to answer your question; am I “trying to be instafamous or something?”
Will I be “Instafamous” someday?
Bottom line… Should it matter to anyone else?
I guess what I’m really trying to say is, to those who are most concerned by the social following of others… maybe focus on yourself a little more.
Judge others a little less.
And take a quick moment to think before you speak.
Because whether it is a misunderstanding, misinformation or even just jealously that fuels you, your words do have an impact on other people….
And I sincerely hope mine do as well.
Mal is exactly right. While Instagram is amazing and has opened up many doors for me that wouldn’t otherwise have been there, it can be a harsh world too and many people don’t understand it.
I appreciate her honest take on the world of Instagram Fame and Social Media Motherhood. It’s hard to find people who will talk openly about what they’ve experienced while on the road to becoming Instafamous.
If you’d like to read more on her perspective on things, check out her hilarious article about How To Turn Your Husband into the Perfect Instagram Husband or he heart felt post Please Give Me My Babies Back.